No one warned me, when I became a parent, about all the apps that would colonize(殖民，占据) my phone: the app for the baby monitor where I could gaze at my daughter, even when my husband and I finally had a night out. The app for the Snoo smart bassinet(智能婴儿摇篮) we rented in bleary-eyed(睡眼惺忪的) desperation, which logged her sleep by the minute. The app where I logged her sleep manually because the Snoo was not accurate enough. And still, I remember thinking that I had been quite restrained(克制的). I mean, I didn’t buy the $299 Owlet smart sock(智能婴儿袜), which would send her pulse rate and oxygen saturation(饱和度) directly to my phone, or the $290 Nanit monitor(智能婴儿监视器), which would track her every breath.
没人提醒过我，成为父母后会有那么多应用殖民我的手机：婴儿监视器应用让我能盯着女儿看，哪怕我和丈夫好不容易有个晚上外出。我们睡眼惺忪、绝望中租来的Snoo智能摇篮的应用，每分钟记录她的睡眠。还有一个我手动记录她睡眠的应用，因为Snoo不够准确。尽管如此，我记得自己当时觉得已经相当克制了。我是说，我没买299美元的Owlet智能袜，那会把她的脉搏和血氧饱和度直接发到我手机上；也没买290美元的Nanit监视器，那会追踪她的每一次呼吸。
Our day care did not have a livestream(直播)—see? restraint—but that is indeed a service some now offer. Preschool required its own app, though, as did summer camp. Soon my phone began pinging with messages about playground spat(小争吵)s and injuries as minor as paper cuts(像纸割伤一样轻微). As I write this, I’ve learned that my daughter woke from her nap at 2:17 p.m.(写这篇文章时，我得知女儿下午2点17分从午睡中醒来。)
我们的日托没有直播——看吧？克制——但现在确实有些机构提供这种服务。幼儿园要求用自己应用，夏令营也是。很快，我的手机开始叮咚作响，消息关于操场上的争吵和像纸割伤这样的小伤。写这篇文章时，我得知女儿下午2点17分从午睡中醒来。
The panopticon(全景监狱) doesn’t end with babies and toddlers. Parents with children older than mine tell me they obsess(痴迷，过度关注) over grades, which are updated instantly with each new assignment or quiz. They watch their kids via the camera on their Ring doorbell(Ring智能门铃); they monitor text messages. They scrutinize(仔细检查) daily photos from sleepaway camp(住宿夏令营)—once a time of complete disconnection—for evidence of sunburns or social ostracism(排斥，放逐). Why is he standing apart from everyone else? Why isn’t he smiling?
全景监狱并不会随着婴儿和幼儿阶段结束。孩子比我大的父母告诉我，他们痴迷于成绩，每次新作业或测验后成绩都会即时更新。他们通过Ring门铃的摄像头看孩子；他们监控短信。他们仔细审视来自住宿夏令营的每日照片——那里曾经是完全断联的时光——寻找晒伤或被社交排斥的迹象。他为什么站在别人旁边？他为什么不笑？
